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Sydney's Entry to this world: Our world; our home

2012-01-17T14:58:00.001+02:00

The story goes that I was tired of waiting and expecting to wake up to labour every night. On Sunday the 4^th of Dec, I decided to pass by the chemist and get some castor oil. Yes i did get it but contemplated for a long time on whether or not to take it. Finally at 09:10pm, I took two tablespoons full at a gulp. At this point, My intention is to take two more spoons should I not be in labour by the next day.

I waited until just after 11pm and with no sign of labour, I decided to go to bed. To my surprise, I woke up to pains at 11:30pm. I went to pee and then back to bed. At about 11:45, I woke up to yet another pain, this time it felt like cramps but I was not too sure.

I went back to bed and up again at midnight. At each of these periods, i went to pee; not just because i wanted to but also because i was checking for signs of spotting.

At this point (at about 12:20), I could not sleep anymore. Yet I was not sure on whether or not I was in labour. The pain however has changed into very painful and intense contractions. At 01:05, I went and got some juice in case of vomiting or soft stool. It was a difficult walk in and out of rooms.

At about 01:55 I woke up to the urge to poop. Yes i did poop generously and now the discomfort was unbearable. Unable to go back to sleep, I decided to start documenting the events and so took my babyâ€™s little diary to the dining room in fear of disturbing my husband. I wrote down everything that was there to write and so became bored. I tried to go back to bed but ... I made. I went back to bed at 2am but had to wake up like every 15 minutes to either pee or poop with very little coming out.

My husband realised i was in labour just before 02:30 am I vomited 3 times between 2:40am and 4:00am.

We left home at 04:14, and got to the clinic at 04: 40. At this point I was checked at 7cm. The Midwife arrived at 04:55 and joined the nurse in preparing water for the birth. With no time to check the babyâ€™s heart beat, I was put in the bath.

My water broke at the first push and the baby was fully out at 05:03 on the 5th of Dec after 3 pushes. He weighed 3.820kg, was 53cm and head was 37cm.

We Thank God for baby Sidney.

39 weeks and still going

2011-11-23T13:36:00.001+02:00

I would not like to load this page with pregnancy stories but ... Baby Sidney is taking too long to come out. The wait started at 37 weeks (full term) and intensified at 38 weeks. Shanon and Stacey were born just after 38 weeks and so we thought lil man shall be born around then also. However, it looks like he has chosen to pair with Synclaire who was overdue.
But like his daddy has said, let him come out when God and him are ready.
To be honest pregnancy is the most amazing thing and I do not mind feeling pregnant. All the pains and sleepless nights are worth it at the end. Imagine how quiet our house would have been without our lil bees. Imagine how boring our lives would have been and imagine how rich we would have been. At the moment, the house is busy, our lives are entertaining and we are very wealthy.

We love ypur and are all waiting for you baby Sidney.

My Cake with the right mixture but wrong mix

2011-10-20T15:49:00.001+02:00

OMG I baked this plain cake that turned out to be so plain. On Tuuesday when I got back home from work, I felt like baking. I have never been good with the Oven but hey! What can a woman do?
I decided to bake a cake using the following recipes;

Flour - 4 cups
butter - 8 tablespoons scoops
eggs - 6
salt - 1 teaspoon
milk - 2 cups
sugar - 2 cups
baking powder - 4 teaspoons
nutmeg - 2 teaspoons

Guess how I went about it?
I mixed the sugar, eggs, butter, milk together in one bowl and then flour, nutmeg, salt, and baking powder in another.
What a dump thing to mix milk, unmelted butter, sugar and eggs together? How did I hope to get the butter smooth? Really there was no way out given that I do not have a mixer.

Using common sense, I had to add the powderish mixture to the liquid mixture. it took alot of effort to do it but eventually we had a smooth cakish mixture.
Eating the cake, it is just the best thing I have ever baked.

Yes sometimes mistakes are not mistakes at all.

My life in October 2011

2011-10-19T14:25:00.000+02:00

It is hard to believe it myself but yes I shall soon be a mother of four. I cannot tell you how it feels but I look forward to strength from God to overcome the challenges.
In April 2004, I went to get my womb tied because I wanted nothing to do with babies. I had just met this young Master student who so much wanted us to get married and have kids. In fact he seemed to have wanted kids more than marriage. In frustration, I decided to get my womb tied. The delay from my doctor's reluctance; for he thought I was too young and the price delayed me to change my mind just a few months after seeing the doctor. I fell pregnant in July of the same year.

In April 2005, I heard the cry of my own off-spring. How funny. After being pregnant 6 times (2 miscarriages on the 2nd of March at 11 weeks 5 days and on the 22nd of July 2011 at 8 weeks 5 days), I am soon to be a mother of 4 beautiful babies; Shanon 2005, Stacey 2007, Synclare 2009 and Sidney 2011.

How else can I thank God? Please tell me.

Want to tell your story? Write to me and I shall publish it.

Breast Health

2011-10-18T10:08:00.000+02:00

Cancer in South Africa is an emerging health problem, with breast cancer being one of the leading cancers in women, following similar worldwide trends. One in 29 women in SA is diagnosed with breast cancer every year. However, timely detection can lead to diagnosis of the cancer in its early stages, aiding treatment and recovery. Breast cancer is a general term for different types of cancer that develop from breast tissue cells. Find out about the different types of breast cancer, the various treatment options available and the latest research that’s being done in this field

YOUR PARENTING TOOLKIT

2011-10-17T13:33:00.000+02:00

YOUR PARENTING TOOLKIT

How To Make Peace With Disapointment
- parents who can deal with it = children who can deal with it -

1. Allow Cracks & Focus On The Light The Crack Let's In

A crack in your marriage, career, or personal plans doesn’t mean that your life is broken. According to singer-songwriter Leonard Cohen, “There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” Focus on the light that the crack let's in.
2. Throw Away The Lies/Evidence

Albert Einstein failed his college entrance exam. Walt Disney was fired from his first media job. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Get it?

So many times we struggle under the weight of a tag or label that was hung around our necks in the past. Take it from someone who was tagged at school for being a bad influence. I knew I never was and will never be but it was up to me to get rid of the so-called evidence/lies that others hung around my neck.
3. Ignore The Critics

Success is one percent natural talent, 99 percent hard work. Take it from a famous writer whose eighth-grade paper was read aloud as an example of how NOT to write. Also, if you don't get criticized it means you are doing nothing.

4. Grow Your Roots

Although the bamboo is the fastest-growing plant on Earth, it looks lazy at first because it has no branches…just lots of deep and wide roots. Once its roots take hold, though, bamboo is capable of surging as fast as 48 inches in 24 hours. So are we … if we grow strong roots.
5. Don’t rush the process

Only in struggling to emerge from a small hole in the cocoon does a butterfly form wings strong enough to fly. Should you try to help a butterfly by tearing open the cocoon, the poor thing won’t sprout wings, or if it does, its friends will make fun of it. So take your time, and emerge slowly and deliberately.

6. Protect yourself

Avoid the highly educated relative who might tell you “all things happen for a reason” or that you somehow attracted this disappointment with the wrong thoughts. Build an imaginary bubble of protection and hide inside.

7. Stay big

Newspaper columnist Ann Landers once wrote, “Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, "I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me." So give yourself permission to be a giant!
8. Write About It

Recent research by Dr. James Pennebaker, chair of the psychology program at the University of Texas, has concluded that writing about painful feelings and emotional events relieves stress and promotes healing on many levels. So start a journal, and put anything—from a single word to pages of thoughts—down on paper.

One of my favourite saying: DON'T JUST THINK IT. INK IT.

9. Start Over

Every disappointment is an opportunity to start over. It’s a blank slate, a clean, white piece of paper. And don’t worry--if this time you still can’t color within the lines, you’ll get another blank sheet, as many new beginnings as you need. And Be Gentle with Yourself

Don’t scream at yourself. Speak to yourself with loving kindness, the same way you would to a friend who was just dealt a big, fat, unfair blow. You deserve kindness from everyone, including yourself. And Dance in the Rain, “You can’t wait for the storm to be over. You have to learn how to dance in the rain.”

10. Hang on to HOPE
There is one thing that never, ever disappoints. And that’s hope. Hold onto it forever.

I really appreciated this quote the other day. “When you feel you are at the end of the rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.”

This Blog

2011-10-17T13:01:00.000+02:00

Dear reader, mother, contributor, friend, and critic,

You are heartily welcome to this blog which promises to be very creative and educative to parents given your help and contributions.
We promise to throw in any and every material that we think shall benefit parents and children in every way. please fell free to comment or contribut to every post as you deem fit.

Inspired to my love for kids, this blog was created on the 17 of October 2011. Its aim as mentioned above is to share information with loving mothers especially. We are not going to discriminate on the basis of ages of both the children and the parents. In short this blog is for all parents and children.